It is easy to take conflict personally, but did you know it is often just a misunderstanding or a lack of communication or an assumption.
We convince ourselves that people purposely intend to hurt us and that they are fully aware of their actions. When in reality they may not have a clue that their words have been offensive, it may have been a flippant comment, or a trigger of their own trauma or just a different opinion to your own.
That is why it is the best practice is to ask for clarity from those who have said something you have found offensive, rude or disrespectful. It allows the other person to consider what they have said, it also gives them the opportunity to apologise.
Check out the blogs on Karpman's Drama Triangle and Transactional Analysis, Parent, Adult Child Relationship.
